Remembering Mary Totton

Mary Totton RSCJ

1929-2024

On September 19^th, 2024, Mary Totton RSCJ was called to the fullness of life with God.

Born in Jarrow on May 23^rd, 1929, Mary met the Society while studying for her teaching certificate at St Mary’s College, Fenham.  She made first vows in Woldingham in 1958  and final vows in Rome in 1963. After final vows, Mary went on to teach in the Sacred Heart school in Tunbridge Wells.

After holding the post of Novice Director for five years, Mary returned to the study of history before finding herself once again teaching history at her beloved Woldingham.

Mary was an educator to her core. Short and slim in stature, she is remembered for her graciousness, her elegance and style, her humour and her capacity to remain calm and unruffled in any circumstances.

Retiring from school teaching in 1986, “Tott’s” life was varied and interesting.  At the age of seventy, she embarked on a chapter of her life that brought her much joy. She joined the Society’s project in Moscow where she spent five happy and fulfilling years teaching Church history in a theology institute.

Mary loved young people. On her return from Russia, she lived and worked in the Society’s hostel for students in Oxford. Here she was a steady presence, a listening ear, and an encouraging friend to so many.

Her experience was much appreciated when she joined the formation community in Hayes in 2012. This community, focused on the formation of RSCJ sisters in the early stages of their religious life, appreciated Mary’s wisdom and wit.

By 2015, Mary, realizing her need for more care and physical support, moved into Duchesne House, the Society’s retirement community, in Roehampton. In recent years, Alzheimer's disease impacted her capacity for communication, but her expressive eyes, gentle smile,and serenity never left her. She was a much-loved member of the community, drawing out the best from her carers, the RSCJ and all who encountered her.

After a brief stay in hospital, it was clear that Mary’s long and rich earthly life was ending.  On September 19^th, she died as she had lived, slipping away quietly and gently with members of the community and care staff at her side.

We give thanks for Mary’s long life of service and her fidelity to the mission of the Society.

In lieu of flowers, those wishing to make a donation in memory of Sr Mary are invited to do so for the Alzheimer's Society

May she rest in peace and rise in glory!

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